Half A Decade
Yesterday, my son turned five years old. I. Can't. Believe. It.
He woke with a bounce in his step, and presented his face with a grin for inspection. I pronounced him "full of birthday sparkles" and he glowed with pride.
He spontaneously composed and performed an elaborate song about being five year old, yeah yeah yeaaaaaah. It was awesome. I'm going to have to get it on video. (Click here to see another birthday song he created on the fly.)
This child of mine, who kept me waiting six days beyond his due date, kept me waiting once again this morning as I tried to lure him away from his birthday booty and into his school clothes.
We had a small family party last night, with my sister and parents. Afterwards, we tucked him into bed, and I spent a few moments snuggling with him, talking about his big day.
We also talked about other things. He was really concerned that he is the only boy, because with two sisters, he figures things could get messy when he has to pick which sister to marry, and he figures maybe I should have another boy just to simplify the sister-marrying.
I told him no.
It did get me thinking about babies, though. My son's babyhood was a blur. His downy head and fat cheeks gave way to a pointed chin like his sisters and bony shoulders. He had a hematoma in the middle of his back shortly after birth, and although the redness is gone, the white patch remains. Our pediatrician smiled when I brought my newborn son in, panic-stricken at the growing red blotch in the middle of his snowy skin.
"That's where his angel wings detached."
I wonder as he grows, if this mark will bother him, or if he will be teased. Even though he is the most sensitive of my children, he doesn't seem to dwell on imperfection, his own, or anyone else's.
Of the three children, he is the most "me." He trips through his day, si-i-ing-ing at the top of his lungs. He is a toodle-loo-er, full of cheery little waves, cheesy winks and kisses blown messily and with alacrity. In the space of an average hour, he professes undying love and never-ending disaster at least six times each.
He considers personal names unimportant, and calls all of his friends "my friend" in lieu of their actual name. When I quiz him, he honestly doesn't know why I care what their names might be. He likes everyone, and in his book, everyone likes him. He is content to be known as "friend" or "kid" or "brother" or "hey, you" as long as someone notices and wants to play. Or better yet, listen.
The kid can talk. And talk. And talk and talk and talk. He has many opinions, and loves to share a good factoid or ten.
I'm like that, too. And it cheers me to see such a funny, kind, gentle, earnest version of myself flitting around. This child is full of love, with an equal portion of baloney. He fills our house with the kind of chaos only a Virgo can deliver.
Somehow, his five seems much smaller, much younger than when my oldest turned five. I am enchanted by his Elmer Fudd accent and his inability to keep a birthday wish to himself. I love that he has no volume control on his voice, and that he doesn't understand WHY THAT MIGHT BE A PROBLEM, MOMMY. SHEESH!
I hope that the growing-up years are gentle with my son. I hope that he keeps his sense of wonder and merriment. I hope that he really becomes a paleontologist/construction guy/professional mama's boy. I hope that he continues to believe everyone is his friend, and that his sisters are the most perfect creatures to ever grace the earth. Unless, of course, he keeps on with the sister-wife bull, because that ain't happenin' y'all.
Happy Fifth Birthday, buddy! I love you to the ends of the universe.
Comments
He sounds like my daughter, almost 6, also newly in kindergarten. She wants to be a doctor/firefighter/mother. She's recently started considering engineer because they work (a few) hours less than doctors. Also, one day she cried because I told her she can't marry anyone in the family. Happy birthday to your son!
Posted by: Amy | September 6, 2005 8:57 PM
Happy Birthday, Circus Boy! He has that same light in his eyes that SugarBear has. How do you stop yourself from just scooping him up & covering him in kisses? I'll bet you're like me and you just don't stop yourself!
Bear never even considered marrying his sister. He was, however, less than pleased that he couldn't marry Mommy. Paging Mr. Oedipus...
Posted by: buffi | September 6, 2005 9:12 PM
Aw! He sounds like such a cutie! Happy Birthday, Circus Son!
Posted by: Dawn | September 7, 2005 12:49 AM
Happy happy birthday to your gorgeous boy! I may have to give him a pinch for good luck!
I agree; I felt like my son was somehow so much YOUNGER at 5 than his sister was, and I wonder if it's a boy/girl thing or a first/second thing or just the way they are. Or a combination of all these things. But hey, you've still got the little one, at least. Mine is my very. last. baby. *SOB*
Posted by: Mir | September 7, 2005 4:55 AM
Happy birthday to your little one! Great post. Even better song! I'm going to have that tune stuck in my head all day.
Posted by: MetroDad | September 7, 2005 6:30 AM
He can marry the little angel, if he want. They sound like they'd get along well. He just has to like kitties and go "meow, meow" at least six times per hour.
Posted by: Dorothy | September 7, 2005 6:47 AM
Awwwe, what a beautiful post babe :)
Posted by: Lindsey | September 7, 2005 7:08 AM
happy 5th birthday to the little guy!!!!! I know, it is a huge blur, isn't it. I look at pictures and vidoes, and it is almost like someone else was there rather than me.
Posted by: cmhl | September 7, 2005 7:13 AM
Oh my gosh! Your kids are GORGEOUS! They're like little mini-Jennies!
Posted by: Shanonn | September 7, 2005 7:13 AM
I am a huge fan of your site...but this by far is one of my favorite entries.
I hope he had a wonderful birthday!
Posted by: Tamie | September 7, 2005 7:38 AM
Thanks for your comment on my blog. Sounds like you have a full house there! Happy belated birthday to your boy.
Posted by: Karen | September 7, 2005 7:52 AM
I watched the b-day song. What a sweet child he is. I just want to give him a big birthday bear hug and listen to more birthday songs. He is a peach. Happy birthday to the 5 year old whose second day of being 5 will be tomorrow!
Posted by: meghan | September 7, 2005 9:44 AM
Happy Birthday big guy! We are so proud of you!
xoxo
Posted by: steph | September 7, 2005 1:01 PM
Happy birthday to him! I can't believe my oldest is almost 6. When the baby reaches that age, I think I'll cry.
Do you mean he had a hemangioma on his back? I think a hematoma is a bruise. My youngest daughter has a hemangioma on her forehead. I can't wait until the redness disappears.
Posted by: Jordana | September 7, 2005 2:17 PM
Well happy happy birthday.. to my little soul-mate.. because I have this weird thing about considering personal names unimportant.
This was a great post full of a lot of love.
hugs and birthday wishes come true.
Holli, Faith (and Nate)
Posted by: Holli | September 7, 2005 5:06 PM
Happy, happy day, little man!
and happy day to you, Jenny!
Posted by: Carmen | September 7, 2005 6:50 PM
Jenny, how did you know that I say that very same thing to my little Goosie - "I love you to the ends of the universe, and back."
What a sweet little guy. Happy birthday!
Posted by: Julie | September 7, 2005 7:07 PM
Little boys are special, I think. Hug him now all you can, so he has enough hugs to carry him through those years when he won't let you near him!
Posted by: Tammy/averagemom | September 7, 2005 8:43 PM
That is so precious:) Your son reminds me of mine (who is just 6). I loved reading the way you tresure him... Sometimes, my kids drive me nuts and my perspective is lost for a bit - your post helped me get my focus back:)
Posted by: jenny | September 7, 2005 9:30 PM
You can't be 57172 serious?!?
Posted by: Max Ballstein | August 15, 2006 1:07 PM