My oldest daughter spends a lot of time looking at herself in the mirror these days. Sometimes, she's primping and preening, but sometimes she stands there making funny faces at herself. She invites her siblings to join her at the mirror, and they all get in the act.

When I look at her, I see beauty, intelligence and humor spark across her features as she pouts and snarls into the glass. I wonder what she sees?

While watching a movie last night, my daughter identified herself with the ditzy afghan hound that gets beaned in the head and goes, ow, Frisbee! (at 49 seconds on the video)

She also sees a lot of herself in Katie, the, uh, charming yellow fluffball in the following:

I look at her and I see smart, pretty, funny, stubborn, talented and outgoing. And yet, she sees herself as the goofball in the scene. The socially awkward one. The ditz. She identifies with the quirky characters. She considers herself to be quiet.

At home, she's the outgoing alpha sibling. At school, her teachers call her shy, and tentative. With me, she's got either a thousand things to discuss or absolutely nothing to share.

I know what I see when I look at her, but I wonder. What does she see?